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I take pride in my family lineage. I come from a long line of teachers, bus drivers, truck drivers, and labor workers. You may think the labor is in reference to the men, but the women are the ones who laid the foundation for our family. 

 Last year wasn’t my best. I settled. For men, jobs, and standards I’d never allow myself to conform to. Today I can say that; three months ago, I would have known it, but wouldn’t have spoken about it. 

“California represented freedom, independence, courage, and a fresh start,” she explained. “As scary as moving across the country alone was, my optimism surpassed my fears.” 

Georgia is known for its humid subtropic climate. While most winters are short and moderate, the summers tend to be longer and hot. Climate of this magnitude has been said to have originated from the Atlantic Ocean which rests on the east coast where Georgia resides. 

It’s homecoming season and for historically Black universities and colleges (HBCUs), that means it’s time to bring out the gear! If you’ve ever been to an HBCU homecoming, you know that it’s a must to have the flyest threads from head to toe, and the more personalized, the better. 

Happy Cake Day to chart-topping artist Cardi B! Whether you know her from her Instagram videos, Love & Hip-Hop: New York, becoming one of the hottest rappers in the game, or if you simply recall her Bronx accent, there is no doubt that Cardi B knows how to make an impression. 

From the outside looking in it may seem as if celebrities have it made with the hottest fashions, cars, homes, lavish trips, and an abundance of money. But do not be mistaken, celebrities are human and deal with real-life situations as do you. 

The wait is over! The third season of The Equalizer is back this Sunday at 8 PM ET on CBS. Actress Laya DeLeon Hayes had a chat with Girls United Social Lead Rhyann Sampson to drop the tea on what to expect for this season. 

Model and socialite Jordyn Woods is celebrating her 25th birthday today. At such a young age, “Heir Jordyn,” as she’s known on social media, has made a name for herself by constantly giving people something to talk about in the best way possible. 

R&B’s newest ‘it girl' Chloe Bailey has no intention of letting up anytime soon. Since the release of her first solo hit, “Have Mercy,” which amassed over 76 million views (and counting) on YouTube, Chlöe has been stirring the R&B pot and makin’ it hot.  

While they are different, HIV and mental illness can both be manageable diagnoses, and therapy has been proven to be beneficial for both. 

Growing up, solitude was my best friend. I saw this as normal, and so did my family and friends. I just wasn’t a “people person.” But after speaking with my psychiatrist as an adult, this could have been an early sign of what I’d eventually come to know as my diagnosis: bipolar disorder. 

Betrayal has a nagging sting. It pokes at you, consumes you, goes away, and returns with the same vengeance. The cycle feels like it always continues. Once you’ve been betrayed, there is no reversal, no undo button, no safety net. You just live in it and with it. No matter how many times you attempt to ignore it or push it in the back of your psychosis, it never vanishes.

The old adage “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” we’re taught as kids is a lie. Words hurt. They burn, and they linger. Growing up, words like stupid, crazy, retarded, or lame were commonly thrown around in school and home as jokes with friends and cousins, but I had no idea how damaging they would be in the long run. 

 In life, it seems the straight and narrow path is boring and too good to be true, because it is. To reach success, you have circle around the block, stall out, hit a curb, go left with a right blinker on, and repeat. Maybe that’s why toxic things are so intriguing, at least that’s what I used to tell myself to make sense of my insanity. 

Even though I'm usually in bed early and my sleep routine is air-tight, I was up past midnight, extremely horny and playing with myself in the darkness of my bedroom. 

 When it comes to domestic violence, people have opinions on what is right and who is justified. An example is the latest incident between Saweetie and Quavo (both successful recording artists) in the elevator.  Footage circulated of the two in an elevator scuffle. In the video, Saweetie takes a swing at Quavo. He then pulls her into the elevator and pushes her down. 

As a Black woman in America, it’s easy to feel overlooked, silenced, and unseen in almost everything. No matter how many degrees I obtain, how diligently I work at my craft, or above and beyond I go to present myself in the most regal fashion, I will always have that inevitable reminder on my shoulder, because, let’s face it, this is not my homeland. 

 DMX (aka Dark Man X) without a doubt is growling in heaven and screaming, “What?!” like only he can. Or at least that’s what I’d like to believe. As a fan, I was disheartened to learn of his overdose, heart attack, and excruciating stay at the hospital on life support. 

We are living in scary times right now. Just think, in 2020 we were ordered to quarantine for pretty much the entire year.

What happens when the evil stranger you’ve been taught to stay away from lives with you? What is the protocol when sexual assault happens at the hands of a family member? The Black community has some learning to do here.

Pre-exposure prophylaxis, also known as PrEP, is the preventative medication used to reduce the spread of HIV/AIDS. It’s been available to people for almost a decade. But not everyone knows about it. 

Being Black in America is a dangerous and all too familiar reality for millions of families that have lost loved ones at the hands of violence. But being Black holds such power, grace, will, and resilience that it has to be celebrated.

I was born a rarity. Custom glasses by age two, my honeyed tone of voice, the deeply rooted leader embedded in me, my love for the library, my narrow nose that widens at the bottom, and my tall stature that took me years to grow to love. 

There are pillars in the community that say they want to make a difference and then there are those that simply let their actions do all of the talking. When I think of Stacey Abrams, her actions overshadow any speech she’s ever spoken. 

Do you or someone you know find yourself extremely sad or down this time of year? Now that winter is upon us, and the sun has gone away for most of the day, this is completely normal. 

WHAT IS NOVACAINE & WHO CREATED IT?

NOVACAINE is the brainchild of Jarvae. Creative Director and Fashion Stylist for Celebrities. This high-quality fashion is a fresh and new brand with heavy influence from the west side of Atlanta,GA.

 Working from home doesn't have to be drab, and joggers aren't just for jogging. It's 2020 and there are no rules, so you can wear comfortable, quality clothes throughout your workday, whether you break a sweat or not. 

My name was supposed to be Marcus. At least that’s what my dad says it would've been had I been born a boy. The relief I feel about not being born a boy  is incomparable. I mean, there’s nothing wrong with the name besides that it’s basic. At least give me a name that’s meaningful, something that will speak over my life. If I were born Marcus, the abandonment would’ve killed me. Who would’ve taught me how to be a responsible, educated black man in America while dad was locked away in prison? The relief I feel for Marcus’ nonexistence is beyond belief.  

 Why doesn’t age 30 come with a warning sign? Everything changes, yet you’re not prepared, at least I wasn’t. My 20s consisted of clubbing almost every weekend, flights to Miami (my second favorite city), horrible dates and house parties. So imagine my dismay when 30 hit and so did my lack of interest, and I mean in everything. No longer did I feel the need to go out or entertain guys I knew weren’t good for me. 30 opened a new realm of life. And that realm subtracted the ‘m’ and only left room for real. 

You’ve probably heard about love languages. Depending on how you’re wired, you might show love through actions — a simple favor, or a kiss on your way out the door. Or you might express it with words, through affirmations or compliments.

 When we think about decorating, we usually imagine transforming the parts of our homes that mean the most to us. We spend so much effort making our bedrooms, living rooms, and kitchens feel like our own that we often neglect the place many of us spend a significant amount of time: the office. 

Here you will find my contributor profile for PopSugar when you click the link. I wrote five articles for PopSugar which are listed below the profile.

 The Food and Drug Administration approved the first oral contraceptive, Enovid, in 1960. Five years later, in Griswold v. Connecticut, the Supreme Court ruled that birth control was protected in the Constitution under the right to privacy, and married couples were given the right to use it. However, by the time that happened, my grandmother had four children. 

 Growing up, I loved my aunts. They were fun and never said no to anything my cousins and I wanted to do. Summers consisted of swimming, skating, countless trips to Six Flags, and bomb sleepovers that we never wanted to end, so my perspective made me look forward to the day I would become an aunt. 

Where's my vulva? There's my vulva!

Masturbation -- there, I said it! For some reason, people treat masturbating as if it's something to be shameful about. And let's face it, everyone does it, so why is it so taboo to talk about? Even married people masturbate. It's a great stress reliever and completely natural. Not to mention that it also releases tension, promotes better sleep quality, boosts your mood, and even relieves menstrual cramps. So how could something so right be wrong?

 Kanye West. He is the most controversial, yet one of the most influential artists of our time. Undoubtedly, he has an opinion about everything, and inevitably, everyone has an opinion about him. We’ve all seen him at the highest of highs, and recently the lowest of lows. But that’s where the ideology of a celebrity fades. That’s what makes him human. 

 As a child, my views on mental health were simple and straight to the point. There were certain kids in school that needed extra attention. Some acted out. Some couldn't talk and made weird noises. Some could even hear voices and talked to themselves. They were different, but not to be targeted or made fun of, at least not in my household. 

Is a hair detox a real thing?

You may be wondering how to clean that scalp slate, especially after years of treatments, relaxers, or chemicals. Don’t fret about the restart: When it comes to going natural, we’re here to help you embark on a hair journey that both scalp and curls will thank you for!

 It’s safe to say that March 31st 2019 impacted millions of lives and changed them forever. The untimely death of Nipsey Hussle resonated from the streets of LA and spread throughout the entire world like a wildfire. Many knew Nipsey as a rapper, some knew him as a Crip, others knew him as a business owner and a real estate investor, an activist, or Lauren London’s boo. There were so many layers to him and so much ground that he’d covered in his short 33 years of life.